Why Do We Make Excuses For The Men We Date?

27 Jan


It can be so confusing when a man says he cares for you – even loves you – but is not making any moves to get closer or commit to you.

If you’re finding yourself wondering what’s going on and what he’ll do next instead of just enjoying his attention and affection, you’re not in good company.

It happens to so many of us women: We attach ourselves to a man and invest our time and hearts in him, yet he feels slightly beyond our reach. And because we are so attached, we start making excuses for him when he’s not showering us with the attention we crave.

On the one hand, we’re willing to give him his “space” and be understanding about all the other pressures in his life. At the same time, we become angry because we aren’t getting what we want and need. It can get so confusing that no matter what we do, we end up feeling awful.
If We Let People Mistreat Us, They Will
“No man should ever feel like he’s your man of choice, he’s your “One”, or that you’re only seeing him. Not until he’s committed.”

When we get so focused on the need for any one man, it’s easy to get blinded. That’s when we start making excuses for him that may in fact be relationship deal breakers for us. If what you want is an exclusive relationship, yet you keep seeing him for fear of losing him, you’re really only losing yourself and all that is important to you.

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