Ask Indy | If he’s the one, do you need the ring?

8 Dec

Making and being committed is one of the biggest decisions of your life. If you get it right, you will have happiness, success, growth and a smoother, more tranquil life. If you get it wrong, you will have pain, conflict, constant aggravation and possible financial ruin.

The decision to commit to marriage or a long-term relationship is perhaps the most important decision you will ever make. And yet almost none of us are trained or educated on how to choose the right life partner in the first place.

Is He The One? Is a question we very rarely and almost never ask ourselves, and for a very important reason. You see, most people automatically assume that if they are feeling in love they have found their soul mate and therefore don’t bother to ask the question.

I think it is safe to assume that most long term relationships begin with a couple falling in love – and yet at least 50% of marriages end up in divorce and of the 50% that remain married research shows that only 38% of those marriages can be described as ‘very happy’ which means that at least 75% of all long term relationships don’t work. Relationships begin with a couple falling in love, and yet they fail 75% of the time. In other words after falling in love, 75% of the time the person turns out to be the wrong person – the soul mate has not been found.

So falling in love and finding your soul mate, are not, one and the same thing. Now of course love and romance are very important ingredients in a good relationship – however, alone they do not form the basis of a soul mate relationship. Alone, they do not indicate you have found Mr. or Mrs. Right.

Those of you who have had long-term relationships will be aware that just as you fall into love you inevitably fall out of love. So then how do you find your soul mate? How do you know if you have found your soul mate – your right life partner?


Priorities fall into place with THE ONE.

Materialism has very little if any place in a mature committed relationship. I’m not saying money doesn’t matter but if you and your partner are serious about being together the size of your home should matter more then the size of your ring ladies. If the cash is flowing on the other hand by all means get the rock!


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