Ask Indy! | Why don’t we listen to our inner voice?

15 Nov


As women, I believe we know in our gut the right things to say and do when it comes to men, dating and relationships. Most of it is common sense. We know we’re not supposed to chase a man, blab our dirty laundry, publicly bad-mouth our ex’s, or sleep with a man on the first date. Right?

Why then do we do it?

As women, I contend that we do recognize a man’s unreliable, discourteous and deceitful behavior and suspect him to be a potentially undesirable partner.

Why then do we ignore our intuition, continue to date, fall in love and commit to losers, abusers and con-artists when our internal voice screams, Run for your life!”

I believe we supernaturally sense when a man is lying, twisting our words (it’s called crazy-making), or unjustly blames or discounts us as a person.

Why then are we unable to stand up to him and confront his wounding behavior?

For thirty years I sought an understanding of men, dating and relationships. The answer I was given was this: LOGIC, INTUITION and a POSITIVE ATTITUDE are a woman’s three most powerful relationship resources.

When I learned to base my decisions on evidence, facts and reality, instead of my irrational, unpredictable emotions, my understanding of relationships exploded.

When I began to trust and act upon my intuitive instincts, instead of being influenced by what someone told me, my wisdom blossomed.

And every time I said or did what was in my best interest, not in the interest of holding on to a man, my confidence soared.

The answer to all my relationship problems was this: My security, happiness and worth cannot be found in a man — It is instead, realized within my unique talents, my inner beauty and my extraordinary strength as a woman.


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